Imagine that you are sitting on a park bench and someone comes over, sits down next to you, and begins to engage in a very heated phone conversation. Their tone is stern and judgmental and the biting words they use are a dead giveaway that they have little or no respect, admiration, or compassion for the person on the other end. 
 
"You are such a disappointment," they say...

"You are still so fat...”

“So what if you’ve lost 5 pounds…”

“You’ve still got a long way to go…”

“What is your problem anyway? It must be old age or something…”

“No wonder you can't get anywhere... I don't know why you even try…”

“You are the most uncooperative person I have ever dealt with…”

“Frankly, I’ve had it with you…"

Now, while this person next to you on the bench isn't speaking directly to you, it's likely your inclination is to find another bench. Who wants to be around that kind of negativity anyway?

Then, suddenly, you realize that there's no one sitting on the bench with you. Instead, you recognize that the conversation you are hearing is your own voice and the person on the other end of it is YOU. You’re the one telling yourself how disappointed you are that the scale hasn’t moved, that you still feel fat, that you’re sick and tired of trying so hard to reach your goals, and that there must be something wrong.
 
Let Your Mind Go and Your Body Will Follow - Now consider the reaction your body has when you make these statements. As the “person” on the receiving end, it’s likely your body has the same reaction that anyone would.  It’s possible that it’s saying in rebuttal, “Well, if that’s really what you think of me, then that’s what I will continue to be.” Is it possible that, through the thoughts and statements you make about yourself to yourself, you are leaving your body no choice but to keep giving you what you are focused on... failure, weakness and disappointment? 
 
"Watch Your Language Young Man" - The truth is when you continue to think, write and utter statements using low-energy words such as disappointed (one of the lowest of all low-energy words) or old, worn out, tired, depressed, overwhelmed, stressed, terrible, hormonal, sick, etc… these words have the power to lock your body in a holding pattern of disappointment, old age, weakness, fatigue, depression and, yes, even menopause.
 
In her book, Every Word Has Power: Switch On Your Language and Turn On Your Life, author Yvonne Oswald, explains that all words carry weight and their impact on us can actually be measured on a physical level. “There are only two types of words: those that empower and those that don’t.”
According to Oswald, your subconscious remembers all the great (and not so great) moments of your life and describes how just meditating on the word “good” can cause the brain to recall the good feelings behind those great moments – just as meditating on the word “bad” or “sad” can produce a matching and equal response.

The reason for this, Yvonne says, is that a key, high-energy word such as good (good happens to be one of the highest) has a measurable energy that transcends beyond the word itself into an emotion that impacts both our physical and metaphysical reality.

"Powerful high-energy words such as excitement, joy, success, or love, vibrate higher and faster, thus increasing your ‘I feel good’ feelings. Low-energy words, particularly words that have negative emotional associations such as sadness or guilt, resonate at a lower frequency. They make you feel less than great by literally lowering your energy levels. In fact, 20 percent of the words you use have strong emotional undertones, which cause you to react either negatively or positively.”

So, what’s a person to do when, say, they are, in fact, still fat… or getting old… or really tired… or legitimately sick? Are we supposed to deny reality? One option may be to simply switch or exchange low energy words with higher energy words. Here are a few examples Oswald offers:

Instead of:                              Try This:
No problem                               I’d be happy to
No trouble at all                         My pleasure
This is too hard                         This is not that easy
I’m so mad                                I’m not happy
I’m sick                                    I’m not feeling well
I’m thankful I’m not sick               I'm glad I am well

In the case of switching from a statement like, “I still feel so fat,” you might instead say, “I’m looking forward to a time when I am leaner.”

The key, Oswald suggests, is to start by becoming aware of the low energy words you habitually use and see if you can begin replacing them with a few better alternatives. It’s very possible, if you do, your life and your waistline will thank you!

Dianne Orwig is a international fitness expert, success coach, motivational speaker, and founder of LivingFit Online™, a fitness program that has helped thousands of men and women completely transform their bodies and live healthier, happier lives though her less-works-better approach.
 
For more information on how you can get better results in less time and with less effort than you ever thought possible, visit http://www.lovelivingfit.com. You can also catch Dianne’s show, Love Living Fit on Blog Talk Radio, every Sunday at 8pm ET by visiting www.blogtalkradio.com/love_livingfit.
 
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