Donald Van de Mark is a speaker and author of, The Good Among the Great. He is the voice and talent on many of Success Television's videos. He has interviewed hundreds of leaders in business and politics including: Jack Welch, Starbucks' Howard Schultz, Intel's Andy Grove, in his nearly 3 decades as a correspondent and anchor at CNN, CNBC and public television. He integrates tips from these great leaders to provide a riveting motivational speech on the traits of successful people.

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Why We Have Mad Men ...and Women

September 20, 2009 by Donald Van de Mark   Comments (0)

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Jobs are lost.  Investment portfolios are down.  And those are just the cyclical traumas.  The more unnerving truth is that everything’s changing and the changes seem to be accelerating: Technology, media, the acceptance of gay people, the rise of women to real power, Communist China as a formidable capitalist, a globalized, multi-racial America… and most of all: a BLACK man in the WHITE House!  A black man who saves Wall Street, who is changing the way we respond to pollution, the way we interact with the world, the way we buy and distribute health care.
 
Making it all the more of an affront to those who resist evolution – is that Barack Obama won’t play his part.  He’s a black man who appears more: intelligent, grounded, successful and noble than any of his white competitors. It’s a world turned upside down.  To those who resist change, it’s felt as an attack on their ideals, their status, their world view and even their grip on reality.  That is scary!
 
That fear then morphs internally into anger and that is understandable and completely natural.  But anger and our reptilian brainmake no mistake.  It is reactionary to its core.  As such it is powerful and dangerous.  It springs from the oldest part of the animal brain – the reptilian stem.  It’s very much part of all of our natures – and when activated by fear, we have little control over it.  Congressman Joe Wilson admitted as much when he said that yelling “You lie!” at the President during his speech to Congress was “spontaneous.”  At that moment, Wilson is the crocodile snapping at splashing prey, he is the front line soldier firing at sounds in the dark.
 
It’s important to remember that his appalling outburst comes from a southern conservative – the kind of person who reveres rank and is schooled in good manners.  All the niceties of our mammalian and analytical brains are no match for the reptilian stem when we are scared and mad -- in both senses of the word.

Resistance to change twists even the most sophisticated minds.  I know of bright, discerning, globally-minded individuals who loathe Barack Obama.  They honestly believe this elegant, calm moderate is ruining the country.  Their children are shocked at their parents' reaction and whisper that it can only be latent racism.  It may be that, but I believe it’s simply that those who do not accept the reality of change become ever more isolated, fearful and angry.
 
white men and diversityThe problem for Joe Wilson and millions of older, white, straight traditionalists is that their world is rapidly shrinking.  The local newspaper is a shadow of its former self, or gone.  The computer is ever more baffling.  Employers push diversity. Young people are coarse and demanding.  Even money doesn’t insulate anymore.  Brown people, gay people, strange invaders of all shades and persuasions now populate the media and workplace, if not one’s own neighborhood. Just like Clint Eastwood’s, Walt Kowalski in the movie Gran Torino, the islands upon which these static personalities sit, grow smaller.
 
It reminds me of America in the early 1960’s which is so brilliantly portrayed in Matthew Weiner’s Mad Men.  The world is shifting beneath people’s feet.  Everyone’s a bit off balance.  We know how history plays out.  Women and African Americans demand opportunity and dark, fearful forces fight back.  Blood is shed.
 
Change is exciting.  Change can be liberating.  But change can also be dangerous, because those who refute it often have no control over their reactive, reptilian and sometimes violent responses.

Check out Donald Van De Mark's series on the 19 Personality Traits of the Best Human Beings

Donald Van de Mark is a motivational speaker and has interviewed hundreds of leaders in business and politics including: Andrew Weil, MD, former U.S. Senator Bill Bradley, Jack Welch, Starbucks' Howard Schultz and Intel's Andy Grove, in his nearly 3 decades as a correspondent and anchor at CNN, CNBC and public television. He is the host of The Wisdom of Caring Leaders and The Wisdom of Teams, training videos used by corporations and schools to teach leadership skills.

Donald integrates practical tips from these great leaders to provide a riveting motivational speech on the personality traits of successful people. 

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