May 2010

Are You Ready for the Elephant in the Room?

May 17, 2010 by Rosalind   Comments (0)

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This month's  career collective bloggers question is:  "What should job seekers do now to prepare for interviews?"   Scroll down for thoughtful ideas and useful tips from my fellow bloggers.


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MY FANTASY: With every chronic illness diagnosis comes a toolkit filled with all you need to prepare for the unpredictable  (more on this in my post,   "Unpredictable getting to you?").    But, whether you're dealing with chronic health issues or not,  you can't predict when the opportunity for the big  interview will come. What will it take to be prepared so your best possible self shows up when this happens?

You might ask yourself: What does being prepared for a job interview mean to me?

I had a client who thought she was prepared.  She'd never had trouble finding work before.  Even in a bad economy, she expected unemployment would be short.  She had her interview clothes (both a suit and a pants/sweater version in winter and summer material!) set aside just for this. She updated her resume weekly with any pertinent activities.  She contacted her references regularly to make sure they were current and used social media and her networks.

Nine months of looking and she hadn't gotten a second interview.  But she stayed hopeful.  She felt as prepared as she could be  -- until the interview that showed her the holes in her prep.

This interview came through a colleague from her last job.  As they talked, she was stunned when she realized that the person interviewing her knew that she had a chronic illness.  Nothing was said, but she felt sure about it and was painfully aware of her own awful discomfort.  Although her illness had not been a factor in her current unemployment,  she froze thinking there was an "elephant in the room".

She knew how to prepare for an interview as her "old/ healthy self".  But she had ignored  illness as a factor in this job hunt and this was sabotaging her efforts.

The idea of a toolbox is really a joke-- which is why I call it fantasy.  Wouldn't it be nice if life were so neat?   I wish I could create a box filled with tools you could pull out when you need them.  I'm sure it would make me rich.  But there are skills you can develop.

In this case, my client needed to address her fears.  She probably would have benefited from an "internal conversation" with herself  as described in this post,  Is there an elephant in the room: handling difficult conversations -- (scroll to Part One, Internal conversation).  That would have helped her to know what she didn't want to face.

What have you learned about preparing for the job interview or for what life throws your way?

CAREER COLLECTIVE BLOGGERS:

Sit Down and Panic. The Interview is Yours @GayleHoward

How to Stand Out in a Job Interview @heathermundell

Avoid These Reference Mistakes @DawnBugni

Unspoken Secrets of Job Interviewing Prep: How Your Nonverbal Presentation and Behaviors Impact the Impression You Make @KatCareerGal

Prep for Interviews Now: Snuff out the Elephant in the Room Later! @chandlee << not working yet

What Should Job Seekers Do Now to Prepare for an Interview @erinkennedycprw

Take a Ride in the Elevator Before You Interview @barbarasafani

Are You Ready for the Elephant in the Room? @WorkWithIllness

"Tell Me About Yourself" (Oh, Yikes!), @KCCareerCoach

The job interview as a shared narrative @WalterAkana

Prepare your references for job search success @Keppie_Careers

No Pain No Gain In Job Search and Interview Prep @ValueIntoWords

Job searching? Take a cue from the Boy Scouts @LaurieBerenson

Preparing for Career Success Starts with Interviewing the Employers @JobHuntOrg

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Chicken/Egg Thing and Mother's Day Offer

May 5, 2010 by Rosalind   Comments (0)

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I often write about living "positively" (e.g., 3 Things You Need to Move from - to + ,     Finding Opportunity in the Quicksand) .  Although the topic  sparks interesting discussion and comments,  I worry I might be creating the wrong impression. (Oh, scroll to the end to find out about the Mother's Day special.)

Following my last post, more readers unsubscribed citing content as a reason. Now, I don't mind if people don't agree with me.  I write to create conversation and stimulate thought and I hope for new ideas and challenge.   But one "unsubscriber" emailed saying that my words seem to "blame the victim".  She wrote, "I didn't create my disease."

Ouch.  That's far from my intention.

In fact, nothing makes me angrier than when someone implies that we cause our illness.  I'll never forget the "friend" who told me I should be less stressed since that must be what's creating the ulcerative colitis.  Or, the colleague who said, "Multiple sclerosis is a nervous system disease but you don't seem anxious or nervous - so how'd you get it?"

Does that seems like a scrambled chicken/ egg thing or what?

OK - we all have stories like that.  You might read this cool article (You Make Me Sick, The Science Creative Quarterly).  It debunks the notion that our thoughts/feelings create disease.

That said, I do believe that there's power in being able to harness the way you think and retrain your brain. You can retrain your thinking if it's getting in the way of  living your life as best you can- illness or not.  One reader's comment led me to read about neuroplasticity, the science behind this.  (It's good to know that science backs up with I've seen work for myself and others).

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If you're wondering how you can do this, what questions to ask yourself or where to start, check this out:

MOTHER'S DAY OFFER:  Do you want to work with a coach who gets what it's like to live with chronic illness and can help you achieve greater job satisfaction?

For the month of May 2010, I am offering a special deal to all blog readers  (you don't have to be a mother!)

When you make an investment in your career and sign up for 3 months of career coaching with me, you receive 50% off the standard fee for 3 months.   (That's a $450.00 savings!)

Note:  You must have a chronic illness or chronic condition and you must be currently employed or actively looking for a new job or career.


Want to know more?  Email me, Rosalind@cicoach.com, and put Mother's Day Special in the subject line.

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