The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.  Vince Lombardi

Motivation and will power fascinate me. Maybe because I didn't have much of either when I was young and then they each blossomed.

Illness in my late 20's was transformational for me.  My gut response to devastating disease shaped how I responded to events from that time on.  From that dark place -- in which I saw parts of me I didn't know existed --   I was able to create intention.  It was an easy route to find motivation, direction and will power I didn't know I had.

Webster' s defines motivation as 'incentive or drive'.  It defines willpower as energetic determination.   In a recent The Boston Globe article, Goal Oriented,  Deborah Kotz explored new research on willpower.

"The reason for all this interest?  Willpower, it turns out, is one of the most important predictors of success in life."

Among other things, the article notes that research shows that those who scored highest on self control at age 3 were far more likely to be healthy and financially successful adults.  No way would I  have scored high on self control at age 3 -- or even 15 (not I who always read the end first and snatched the frosting from the all cupcakes in spite of my brother's wrath!).  It wasn't until I was in my 20's that any hint of who I would become started to emerge.

But I don't think I'm typical.  I've noticed in my coaching practice that those with a track record of success do better at marshaling the motivation and willpower they need to face the challenges of chronic illness.  Even if resilience and hope falters, they've already developed the muscle memory.

So, what's it been like for you?  Do you "hide under the covers" and collapse when the going gets tough?  Or is there some part of you, some voice, that always pulls you up to face the day?

How do you face tough times, difficult situations, your unhealthy body?  Do you think you always had the tools to 'push through'?

FYI - The header comes from this quote:  They can because they think they can. Virgil

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Alleviate Overwhelm With A Dumping Session

If you are feeling overwhelmed and that is what is keeping you from moving forward, it often helps to have a dumping session. This is where you make a list of everything you need to get done. Get every little thing out that is currently floating around in your head causing you to not act on any of it.

I often find it useful to make my lists in sections such as: Personal Tasks (getting a hair cut, sending my brother a birthday card, etc.), Household Tasks (cleaning, getting the dishwasher fixed, etc), Marketing Tasks, Business Tasks, etc.

The idea is to remove it all from your head and let the paper remember everything for you. Seeing everything in one place is also helpful because it allows you to make sense of it. After your list is complete, use different colored highlighters to separate what you plan on accomplishing today, this week, next week, etc.

By doing this exercise, you might find yourself feeling lighter because you have just dumped tons of clutter from your mind. In addition, since you have also come up with an organized plan of when you will accomplish each task, you should feel less overwhelm and more able to move forward.

10 Minutes To Motivation

If your lack of motivation is due to feeling tired, worn out or just not in the mood to do what you need to do, there is an easy solution. Get yourself to commit to doing the task for just 10 minutes. Anyone can live through 10 minutes of something they don't want to do, and what usually ends up happening is that you will find it easier to continue with the task for much longer. This is because typically when you get involved in a task, you realize it isn’t as bad as you had imagined. Plus, you will probably notice that if you push through the fatigue, you will get what is called a second wind, whereas if you sit around lethargically, you will usually feel even more tired.

Recharge To Motivate

There will probably be times when the above two tips don’t work for you, and it might be because you just need a break! We all need to allow ourselves some self-care time. If some time off is what you need, then take it!

Agree to give yourself a time limit depending on how overworked you are and how much of a break you deserve or need at the moment. If you decide two hours is what you need, then take that time and do something you enjoy without regret. Make sure you are doing it “without regret,” otherwise the time off is pointless. If you assess the situation and decide you need the time to recharge, then decide to give yourself that time joyfully. Then, once the set amount of time is up, commit to getting back to work. By then, you will most likely feel recharged and ready to move forward.

Make The Choice To Be Motivated

Most people play the victim to their feelings and think that motivation has to hit them in order for them to move forward, so they end up waiting around. In actuality, though, motivation is a choice (as is every other feeling you have). Have you ever wondered why sometimes you are more motivated to exercise than others? The reason is because you found a way to be more passionate about exercising and that kept you motivated.

Motivation comes when you feel inspired and passionate, and by finding ways to keep yourself inspired, you are choosing to stay motivated. Life will happen to you for our whole life. It’s what you do with your life that matters. Don’t just sit back and wait for something to happen or not happen to you – create the moments you want in life by taking the steps each day that help you feel motivated to move forward. You are the only one who can take those steps for yourself.

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Faith M. Davis is an internationally recognized author, an artist, and a copywriter and marketing professional with a background in life coaching. She uses words and art to transform lives through 1) Freelance Writing, Copywriting & Marketing for the Holistic Industry: www.faithmdavis.com, and 2) Enchant ~ Designs for the Soul: www.enchantgifts.com.

I know that I have a lot to learn.  There are many things about me I can improve.  I’m just guessing here, but I bet that’s true for you too.  That’s why I choose to focus on improving me rather than criticizing others. 

I’m not a real religious guy, but I do remember a few bible stories.  There’s one where people are gathered to stone a woman who is accused of adultery.  Jesus disperses the angry crowd by telling them, “Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone?”  I know I am in no position to be casting stones.  I doubt if you are either.  None of us are perfect.  If we both choose to put our energy into building our self confidence and improving yourselves – not criticizing others for their failings – we will be happier, more confident and successful, and the world will be a less contentious place.

I first learned about Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs when I was in college at Penn State.  The model was structured as a pyramid with “self actualization” at the top.  Dr. Maslow defined self actualization as “being all that you can be” – something the US Army borrowed for its TV recruiting commercials several years ago.

According to Dr. Maslow self actualization is an unattainable state, because no matter what you achieve, you soon realize that you can achieve even more.  You can take this one of two ways.  You can see it as negative and frustrating because you’ll never reach the goal of being self actualized.  Or you can see it as positive and inspiring because you’ll always have another dream to chase, another goal to reach.

I choose the latter.  I was telling someone the other day that the whole web 2.0 phenomenon has been great for me because I have begun to really learn lately.  I’ve always kept up in my field, but I’ve felt for the past few years that most of my learning was incremental.  I wasn’t making any quantum leaps forward.

However, since I’ve begun blogging and tweeting, I’ve learned a lot – really a lot.  And, as the ninth point of my newsletter, the Optimist Creed points out, I haven’t had the time, nor the inclination, to think about what others are doing, much less criticizing them.  I’m busy learning and growing -– and that’s cool and fun and exciting. How about you? What are you learning and how are you growing?

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How do we come to terms with the tremendous power of Mother Nature? Given the current discussions about whether or not there actually is global warming - and, if so, whether it's due to man or the earth itself - you may be left feeling confused. Perhaps we can acknowledge the power of nature and still recognize our role in the process.

And in your personal life, you can use this same outlook. Focus on what you can control in your life and what you can accomplish, not what you can't. In the heat of the moment, enthusiasm about making a change - protecting the earth, creating stronger family relationships, making the world a better place, loosing those stubborn last pounds - can be great. But what happens the next day? You know that inspiration is not enough - you need to implement your decision in a definite way. You can build on it by shifting your routine, following through and transforming yourself. Here are 8 tips on how to go about it:
 
1. Acknowledge your ability to change. Recognize that there may be limits to what you can accomplish but that you can take it one day at a time. Give yourself permission to begin the process by setting a realistic goal, without expecting perfection in your results.

2. Write out specific goals for yourself and break them down into smaller, more manageable short-term objectives. Set up a timeline for tackling each task. The more you formulate your plans and establish concrete steps, the greater the likelihood that you will follow up on them.

3. List your personal resources and inner strengths. This process will help you attain your objectives and eventually achieve your goals. Draw on them as you have when you've made other changes in your life.

4. Make a public commitment to the change you are pursuing. This will help you take yourself and your decision seriously. And it will increase your motivation to continue the process even when you face barriers along the way.

5. Maintain your energy by rewarding yourself for each objective you accomplish. Use an intermittent reinforcer - lunch with a friend, an evening at the movies - even as you keep your focus on the future goals you are striving toward. Positive reinforcement will keep you motivated to continue your process of change.

6. Draw on the support of family and friends. They want you to succeed and will give you the help you need. Join with others who have similar goals - when you enlist someone to share your journey it makes the whole process more fun.

7. Don't beat yourself up when you backslide. Change can be overwhelming and you need to be patient with yourself. Refine your strategies as you learn from your mistakes. Have a Plan B ready and continue to improvise as you discover what works best for you.   

8. Enjoy the satisfaction and feelings of power that come from making real changes. You've earned it! And you can use your new skill set to achieve success in other areas of your life as well. If you're a Sandwiched Boomer, resolve to use these tips to take better care of yourself.

Remember, even if you can't influence the circumstances, you can control how you handle them. Search for solutions by clearly defining your goals and aspirations. Letting go of negative thoughts and unrealistic expectations free you up to make something positive come out of a negative situation.  

© 2011, Her Mentor Center

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Understanding and leveraging strengths is the road to inspired leadership. Recognizing and understanding how to focus on these strengths can tremendously benefit you and your team.  Do you know where your team's strengths lay?  Is your team organized in a way that maximizes the strengths of the individual members and the company? Are your team members playing to their strengths? Are you?

Measure and Build Employee Engagement
The strengths revolution has resulted in a whole new wave of measurement for organizations: employee engagement. Instead of measuring attrition, stress, or problems, we can measure what we want to call attention to and build inside of our teams. That’s employee engagement, which has a direct, proven correlation with productivity and retention.

5 Major Benefits of Leveraging Strengths

People who use their strengths more:
1. Are happier
2. Are more confident
3. Have higher levels of self-esteem
4. Have higher levels of energy and vitality
5. Experience less stress

Help yourself, help your team . . .

Cultivate A Strengths Focus

Take time to focus attention on the strengths you have as a team. Not just for a week or a day, but continuously. You have the freedom to focus your attention wherever you choose, and sometimes we don’t consciously take charge of our amazing ability to choose where we put our time, energy, and engagement. What we focus on has impact on how we think, how we see the world. If you choose to focus only on what’s wrong, the world looks like a pretty ugly place. If you choose to consciously focus on what’s right, what’s working, what you can expand, build upon, replicate, or grow—that has its own power.

Growth, motivation, and expansion happen more easily when the focus and energy are shifted to the areas, skills, and talents where we excel.  Everything else, including skills that need developing, will mature in response to this shift in focus.

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Karlin Sloan is the founder and CEO of Karlin Sloan & Company, Ms. Sloan provides organization development consulting, training and executive coaching to clients the U.S., Europe, South America and Asia.  She is the author of Smarter, Faster, Better; Strategies for Effective, Enduring, and Fulfilled Leadership (Jossey-Bass, 2006) and Unfear (January 2011).

SUMMARY:  Accomplished historical figures were not born with some super human like resilience that shielded them from disappointment, self-doubt or misgivings. Each had to wage their own inner battles with fear as they worked to overcome the obstacles that lined their path to success. What they ultimately learned was that your setbacks & cynics don't define you. Your responses do.

In December, 1903, a New York Times editorial questioned the intelligence of the Wright Brothers who were trying to invent a machine, heavier than air, that could fly. "It simply defies the laws of physics," they wrote. One week later, at Kitty Hawk, the Wright Brothers took their famous flight

If you study history, you will find that all stories of great success are also stories of great triumph over adversity. But often we overlook the setbacks and only see the end success. We think the person got lucky: "He or she must have been at the right place at the right time." Or maybe they were just really smart. Or talented. Or well connected. But that’s all bunk. While it may have been a little bit of each, what ultimately led to their success was their refusal to allow their setbacks and failures to define them.

Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. You could say he had a slower start than many of his childhood peers. But I'm sure you'd agree that he eventually caught up pretty well. Today the name Albert Einstein is synonymous with genius.

As a young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced countless rejections from newspaper editors. He "lacked natural talent" they said. One day a minister from a local church took pity on the young cartoonist and hired him to do some cartoons in a small mouse infested shed behind the church. After seeing a small mouse, he became inspired to draw it. And so, Mickey Mouse was born.

One day a partially deaf four-year-old-kid came home with a note in his pocket from his teacher, "Your Tommy is too stupid to learn. We cannot have him at our school." His mother decided to teach him herself. Partially deaf and with only three months of formal schooling, Tommy grew up to be Thomas. Thomas Edison went on to fail approximately 10,000 times before he succeeded in inventing the light bulb.

And even Oprah Winfrey, had her fair share of struggles, sorrows and setbacks. Oprah did not become one of the most influential women in the world by allowing others to define her, giving into her self-doubts, or throwing in the towel when the going got tough. After enduring a rough and often abusive childhood in rural Mississippi, Oprah was fired from one of her first jobs as a television reporter, being told she was "unfit for TV." She now has her O.W.N. network!

Of course, you may feel like you have little in common with Oprah or Disney, Edison or Einstein. But that isn't true. You do. They were not born with some super human like resilience that shielded them from disappointment, self-doubt or misgivings. They each had to wage their own inner battles with fear of failure as they worked hard to overcome the external obstacles that lined their path to success. What distinguishes these people is that they did not become a victim to their failures. When they fell down, they got back up. And when people told them it couldn't be done, they refused to buy into their lack of belief.

There are things that you and only you can do, things that will never be done if you do not do them. But any worthwhile accomplishment is going to call on you to trust in yourself more fully, to risk making mistakes and forgive yourself when you do, to press on when the going gets tough, and to refuse to allow your setbacks to define you (know the cynics in your life).

How you choose to interpret your failures will either move you forward in life or hold you back. Every failure can be turned into a stepping stone to success. Every mistake is a lesson in what not to do. Every setback is an opportunity to dig deeper into yourself, to access resources you didn't know you have and to acquire wisdom you could gain no other way.

Every story of success is also a story of triumph over adversity. What story are you writing?

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Margie Warrell is an accredited executive life coach, speaker, syndicated columnist and best selling author of Find Your Courage. She is recognized internationally as an expert on living and leading with courage.

Brooks cites several research studies about the importance of student-teacher connection when it comes to student achievement. One comment from a great interview on San Francisco's KQED radio show, "Forum" with Michael Krasny: "I came across one researcher who said that if you want to know who is going to drop out of school.. ask a kid, 'Who’s your favorite teacher?,' and if s/he gives you an answer to that question, that kid will not drop out.  If they look at you as if that question is absurd then those kids are at risk."

That human connection is even more important than grades and SAT scores.  It's about self-determination, which is so critical to happiness and productivity. 

When asked about how to help children develop good character, Brooks advised an East Bay teacher to be herself, because Brooks said, "When I think back on my teachers, it’s not really the curriculum that I remember. It’s their way of being in the world that I could emulate."  Think about your way of being. It's my strong conviction that each of us can cultivate a stronger, more genuine and singular way of being. And if you do, you're well on your way to an autonomous, self-directed life, a life that's more yours and thus more joyous.
 
There are many ways to become more autonomous: listen and act on your daydreams, and as Joseph Campbell advised, "Find quiet time alone every day where "you don't know who your friends are, you don't know what you owe anybody, you don't know what anybody owes to you.  This is a place where you can simply experience and bring forth what you are and what you might be. This is the place of creative incubation."

And most of all, to be autonomous, emulate those people who have an appealing way of being. 

Cheers from Sonoma,

Donald  

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Cheers from Sonoma,
Donald

Donald Van de mark is the author of, The Good Among the Great, 19 Traits of the Most Admired, Creative and Joyous Human Beings. Check out Donald Van De Mark's series on the 19 Personality Traits of the Best Human Beings

Donald Van de Mark is a motivational speaker and has interviewed hundreds of leaders in business and politics including: Andrew Weil, MD, former U.S. Senator Bill Bradley, Jack Welch, Starbucks' Howard Schultz and Intel's Andy Grove, in his nearly 3 decades as a correspondent and anchor at CNN, CNBC and public television. He is the host of The Wisdom of Caring Leaders and The Wisdom of Teams, training videos used by corporations and schools to teach leadership skills.

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The Japanese reaction to the Tsunami and earthquake is a great example of resilience in action. Resilience seems to be the theme our experts are writing about when facing the courage to change or shift to move forward in our careers, lives and relationships. 

Resilience in the Face of Adversity by Karlin Sloan

"...significant, lasting change begins inside individuals and emanates outward, not the other way around. Systems change when groups of people together tap their resilience and change from the insideout." - Kathy Marshall, National Resilience Resource Center, University of Minnesota

The after effects of the earthquake and tsunami that devastated so much of Japan offer lessons in resilience that are worth studying.

What new technologies will be born out of necessity? What new relationships will flourish in the aftermath and reconstruction?  What leaders will rise and fall based on their ability to adapt and to accept the circumstances of the day, while focusing on solutions for tomorrow?  These are the kinds of questions we will look back and reflect upon as the people of Japan demonstrate for us lessons in resilience. 

The First Step

The first step to being resilient comes when we . . . Accept What Is.
What is, is. What isn't, isn’t.

Resilience starts by accepting the reality of a given situation. Through acceptance we are freed to move beyond adversity and focus on building a future. Read more to get your own lesson here >>

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The Power of Being Courageous by Sandra Ford Walston

True courage comes from a place deep within each of us, not from synapses firing based on intellectual prowess, education, titles or credentials. Courage is much more than brains or mental capabilities, it is a discipline. Demonstrating courageous leadership at work and living a courageous life comes from an energy springing from an individual’s deepest values, motivation, and attitudes: the authentic self.

What would motivate you to explore where this ancient virtue fits into your workplace today? Why would you want to exhibit the efficiency that goes along with courage? The answer: there is an indisputable direct correlation between your “courage quotient” and your “success quotient.” Read more here>>

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Does Your Self Image Match What Others See? by Marshall Goldsmith

Can you see in yourself what others see in you, or do you see in others what you don't see in yourself?

As a Ph.D. student at UCLA in the 70s, I had a self-image of being 'hip.' I believed I was involved in discovering deeper human understanding, self-actualization, and profound wisdom. My teacher was Dr. Bob Tannenbaum. Bob had invented 'sensitivity training', published a popular article in the Harvard Business Review, and was a full professor.

In Bob's class, we could discuss anything we wanted. I started talking about people in Los Angeles. For three weeks, I did a monologue about how 'screwed up' people in Los Angeles were. 'They wear sequined blue jeans; they drive gold Rolls Royces; they are plastic and materialistic; all they care about is impressing others; they don't understand what is important in life.' (It was easy for me to be an expert on LA, since I grew up in small town Kentucky.) After listening to me babble for three weeks, Bob looked at me quizzically and asked, 'Who are you talking to?' Read more for Marshall's "aha" moment>>

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So, your reality shows you aren't where you want to be. You want to make more money, to have a better job, better relationships, just be a better person. What do you do? Psychologist Sharon Melnick, who is an expert on helping people fight procrastination, offers this advice >> 

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What would motivate you to explore where this ancient virtue fits into your workplace today? Why would you want to exhibit the efficiency that goes along with courage? The answer: there is an indisputable direct correlation between your “courage quotient” and your “success quotient.” But first it takes knowing the components of courage and then conscientiously applying them. Mastering your courage is not a mechanical process. The challenge you face is for you to be yourself, but with more know-how, a distinction between a superhuman hero and cultivating authenticity.

Regardless of your position or title at work, ask yourself these questions to determine how you demonstrate courage-centering at work:

• Do my employees or peers perceive me as courageous?
• Do I feel a sense of joy in my work?
• What leadership archetype would employees ascribe to me, such as the “boss, caregiver, mentor, perfectionist, sage,” etc.?
• Do I strive above all else to leave a daily courage legacy that transcends generations?
• Do my employees or peers see me as genuine and real?
• Do I feel exalted by my vision?
• Does my language encourage or discourage?
• Do my employees or peers take personal responsibility for the experiences they create?
• Does my leadership style substitute humility for vanity?
• How stuck am I in my belief system or “positionality”?
• Do I belittle “touchy-feely” behaviors versus displaying and celebrating gratitude?
• On a scale of 1-10 (ten being the highest), how enlightened are my leadership skills?
• Are my employees or peers innately motivated to achieve the desired results?
• Do I work in a proactive or reactive company?
• Do I hire people (or does HR) with instinctual courageous leadership behaviors?
• Can I imagine a workforce of self-propelled employees centered in courage?
• Do my employees/peers perceive me as credible?
• When was the last time I had an “aha” insight about my leadership tendencies?

Courage-centering is the ability to call forth your everyday true Self to action—to lead from your heart and spirit. Claiming and displaying your courage at work and demonstrating courage-centering behaviors require you to invite your heart and spirit into your daily work life. It’s an approach and a focus (not a program) that keeps you vital. Courageous-centering in the workplace promotes an ability for you to:

  •  think on your feet;
  •  tackle issues as the facts happen;
  •  sponsor challenges to the status quo;
  •  endorse “courage change agents”;
  •  let go of condemnation and judgment;
  •  enhance innovation;
  •  remove indifference;
  •  instill courageous will;
  •  replace biased views with dispassionate statements; and
  •  escalate team dynamics to “step up” to the next level.

Courage-centering improves your understanding of who you are and affirms the power within you. These qualities can be honed by anyone willing to dig deeply into their true selves. Once “groomed,” courage becomes a resource to draw from at work and at home, and you will find that it is easily transferred to others so they can find courage within themselves. Then, courage becomes the sponsor for continuous improvement.

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Do you criticize yourself to try and motivate yourself, but wind up stressed and no closer to success?

Here's the irony: You work so hard for other people to think well of you, and once they do you don't even accept their compliments.

You work so hard to achieve progress, and once you do, you just set the bar higher and keep working harder. That doesn't bring much enjoyment or peace of mind; just more hard work.

Get over your critical inner voice so you can stop the hammering inside your own head and start being your own champion.

Try this instead:

Be tougher on yourself. Tougher? Yes. ;-)

When you focus on falling short and what you did wrong, you are dwelling. Dwelling is the easy way out; it's just talking, not action. 

You consider yourself a hard worker? Great, work hard at this: Learn from situations by asking questions and acting on the answers.

Let's take an example: Is there someone you are comparing yourself to who is more successful?

1) Is that person making good use of their unique talents? Probably.  Are you?

2) Do you have a gut feeling you should be doing something differently but haven't acted on it? Why not?

3) Have you been too overwhelmed to pay attention to improvement? If you agree with your current priorities, there is no excuse to beat yourself up. If not, shift priorities so you are freed up to focus on what's most important.

4) Has that more successful person worked smarter or procrastinated less? What can you do to be more efficient and take action?

5) Does that person have a written articulation of what 'enough' means to them? In the absence of a clear idea of what is 'good enough,' you will always perceive yourself as falling short. 

6) What is the tone that person uses to talk to him or herself (and the people around them?) How can you make a soundtrack your mental iPod that energizes you?

Don't beat yourself up and deprive yourself of an opportunity to learn. The 'easy' way is to dwell, the 'hard' way is to make it better.

Let me make the 'hard' way EASY for you. In my online interactive Confidence at the Core training starting in early April, you will get a toolkit to get rid of that negative voice. You CAN have the confidence to have the success you've imagined personally and professionally. Think YOU can't get rid of that negative voice in 5 weeks? Read this and see for yourself!